Are You Troubled by Someone’s Drinking?
Millions of people are affected by the excessive drinking of someone close to them. The following questions are designed to help you decide whether you need Al-Anon. If you answer yes to any question, put a check next to it.
1. Do you worry about how much someone else drinks?
2. Do you have money problems because of someone else’s drinking?
3. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else’s drinking?
4. Do you feel that if the drinker cared about you, he or she would stop drinking to please you?
5. Do you blame the drinker’s behavior on his or her companions?
6. Are plans frequently upset or canceled or meals delayed because of the drinker?
7. Do you make threats, such as, “If you don’t stop drinking, I’ll leave you”?
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8. Do you secretly try to smell the drinker’s breath?
9. Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?
10. Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker’s behavior?
11. Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking?
12. Have you considered calling the police for help because of fear of abuse?
13. Do you search for hidden alcohol?
14. Do you often ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking?
15. Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?
16. Do you feel like a failure because you can’t control the drinker?
17. Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?
18. Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker?
19. Do you feel angry, confused, or depressed most of the time?
20. Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?
If you answered yes to three or more of these questions, Al-Anon or Alateen may be able to help. See the “For Further Information” section of this chapter.
Using Your Results
How did you score? (1) What is your alcohol use assessment score from Part I? Are you surprised by your score? Does your score indicate a problem?
Did the Al-Anon quiz indicate that you are affected by someone else’s excessive drinking? Are you surprised by the result?
What should you do next? If your alcohol use assessment score indicates hazardous or harmful alcohol consumption, or if you are encountering drinking-related problems with your academic performance, job, relationships, or health, or with the law, you should consider seeking help. Check for campus or community resources, including counseling, self-help groups, AA, and formal treatment programs.
If you are troubled by someone else’s drinking, you can contact Al-Anon or Alateen by looking in your local telephone directory or contacting Al-Anon’s main office (1600 Corporate Landing Parkway, Virginia Beach, VA 23454; 800-344-2666; http://www.al-anon.org).
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